Karen Chapman Attentive Therapy Malton North Yorkshire. www.attentivetherapymalton.com
I am a qualified therapist with extensive experience of working with clients who have issues and/or problems particularly bereavement and grief.
Having experienced my own journey of loss I believe that we all grieve differently, there are no right ways and no wrong ways to grieve and all that I ask is do not struggle on your own.
In our bereavement, we spend different lengths of time working through each step and express each stage with different levels of intensity. The five stages do not necessarily occur in any specific order. We often move between stages before achieving a more peaceful acceptance of death. Many of us are not afforded the luxury of time required to achieve this final stage of grief.
http://www.brainblogger.com/2016/07/03/coping-with-grief-and-loss-the-five-stages/
I would suggest that some may think that the longer you have known a person will have an impact on how long and the intensity your grieving process maybe be. However, I would challenge this to say that all grief is server, partially that of an unborn child. You have carried this unborn child with in you, it was a part of you therefore you need to grieve.
Looking at the 5 stages of bereavement, Denial and isolation, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and finally Acceptance, there is no conformity in your bereavement, you do not have to visit each stage, either in order, or conform to each one. Bereavement is personal, it is yours and you should allow time, emotions and thoughts to whichever stage in whichever order.
Sometimes we get ‘stuck’, totally consumed within a stage of grief that it becomes all consuming, this is normal. You may be angry at everyone around you, you may feel like you cannot go on, you may even feel you cannot talk about your grief or that you are talking too much, again this is normal.
Allow yourself to feel the grief as it comes over you, resisting it only will prolong the natural process of healing. Bereavement will be one of the hardest journeys you travel so remember you don’t have to travel alone.
Karen Chapman Attentive Therapy Malton North Yorkshire. www.attentivehterapymalton.com
